What comes to mind when you hear the words sensual or sensuality?
Discomfort? Shame? Intrigue?
What if I told you that embracing your sensuality is not only liberating, it’s downright empowering?
Sensuality isn’t just a buzzword everyone’s using on social media these days; it is a magnetic energy woven into the very fabric of femininity and it’s a core part of who you are. It’s not uncommon for you to feel disconnected from this part of yourself amidst the chaos of everyday life, though. You work so hard; juggling a career, caring for family and everything in between while your sensual side takes a backseat. You get so hung up on checking off “to-do” lists that you never even bother to check in with yourself. If you continue this for so long, you may find you’ve become so disconnected, it’s hard to find your way back again.
When you feel disconnected from your body, it means you’ve essentially stopped seeking pleasure. This also means something vital is missing in your life and it’s preventing you from presenting as your most authentic self. You are in your most disempowered state when you’re disconnected from your feminine energy and it affects your overall enjoyment of life and how you show up in the world.
Many of my clients express this is a big part of their lives they feel is missing. They’re often business owners, lawyers, teachers, engineers, moms, the list goes on. They’ll tell me they’re constantly overwhelmed in some areas of their lives and underwhelmed in others. They miss the part of them that enjoys being playful, feminine, flirty, and smoldering with magnetic energy. Some have never experienced it at all. The one thing they have in common is they all want to reconnect with their femininity, enjoy their sensuality and either don’t know how or are concerned about what others might think.
Sensuality often gets confused with all things sexual and that’s simply not accurate. Sensuality speaks to the way you inhabit your body and how you connect with the world around you through your senses: Sight, sound, touch, smell, taste and your intuition.
Knowledge about what sensuality truly means empowers you to embrace your bodies as a source of pleasure and strength rather than an object of scrutiny and shame. It also opens up levels of curiosity about who you truly are and understanding your desires and preferences. As your knowledge expands, you’ll begin to cultivate a positive and healthy relationship with your body and you’ll realize being sexy, feeling sexy is truly a state of mind and there is nothing shameful about it. You’ll begin to celebrate and embrace your sensuality as an integral part of your identity. And this shift in perspective fosters confidence, self-empowerment and creates a foundation for you to pursue your aspirations without being constrained by societal judgment.
So your question may be, “How do I begin to connect with who I am? How do I begin to enjoy myself and my life more?”
There are so many ways to reignite your sensuality and tap into your Divine Feminine energy. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach and it’s a deeply personal journey of self-discovery; it’s as unique as you are.
Here are a few ideas to get you started.
- Get in touch with your body: Start by taking time to explore your body and its sensations. Self-hugs are more powerful and comforting than you’d think. Also, engage in activities that make you fully aware of your body like yoga, dancing, or simply spending time touching and massaging your body. Take it slow and witness yourself, be curious about what you feel and be intent on releasing any judgemental thoughts.
- Spend time in nature: Spending time in nature can help you connect with your natural rhythm and increase your sensitivity to your surroundings. Take a walk in the park, go for a hike, or spend time gardening. When you do these activities, notice simple things: how the air/sun feels on your skin, what the air smells like, close your eyes and sway to the sound of the wind rustling the leaves, notice how the grass feels under your feet. This is a grounding practice that proves to open up new ideas as you connect with the earth beneath you.
- Practice self-care: Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that make you feel good, such as taking a bath, getting a massage, or getting a manicure or pedicure. If your love language is acts of service, physical touch or quality time, these would be perfect for you.
Connecting more with yourself is a powerful avenue for self-discovery and empowerment and when you engage in these activities, be mindful not to make it a hurried practice. There’s not rushing allowed. By fostering a deeper understanding and appreciation of your own sensuality, you can reclaim autonomy over your body, your desires and feel more confident standing in your personal power.
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